Just realised that I'm ****ed.....

[Harbro-Fox]

For the last few years I have been able to scrape by in life without too much trouble, example of this being GCSE's. Suddenly though as I sit here at half twelve on a Monday night I am beginning to realise that slowly (although not to slowly) my life is beginning to get shitter and shitter and really I am fooked for the future in terms of a job and being succesful. I have an English exam as soon as tomorrow and as I have no motivation I have sat here on the internet tonight looking at Talkingballs, Facebook and loads of World Cup shite. All night long I knew I had revise but I just kept putting it off and saying I'll do it in a bit, now I'm at the stage where I'm on here typing this because I am so pissed off and bored. To make this English exam even worse it is two hours long and I don't even have the book that you need to take into the exam hall, I now have to rush down to Waterstones in the morning and pray to the Lord that they have this book as if they don't I'm ****ed.

Adults reading this may think I'm going over the top and youre probably right but I need to take my anger and frustration out somewhere, thanks. The worst thing about all of this is that I have to get good grades in my three a-level exams else I'm going to get kicked out (I've already had meeting with people but they just chat shite), so now I sit here with the mentality that I'm going to get kicked out I have to think of what is next for me......college next year, can't do that as I have left it to late as all along this year I thought that there would be no need as I would scrape by this year and then push on next year, **** - that is no longer going to happen. Full time work is the next option but again I have problems my GCSEs are very average and basically my attendance is shite so it is going to take someone very brave (thick) to take me on, I have been looking on the net and can't see much, I even got rejected for a job at pound strecher I mean that is enough to push anyone over the edge.

The thing I blame for my downward spiral in life are -

Myself - Idiot, knowing I've had stuff to do such as revision but instead sitting on facebook or FM trying to get Norwich promoted when it is never going to happen and is just wasting my time would have been much easier if Stancu would have scored his one on one in the play off final.

TB - This forum takes a big chunk of the blame, even on nights like tonight when the forum is dead I sit on here looking at the same threads, laughing at the same quotes and rants and arguments going on, coming back on here moments later to see if anyone has created a new thread or post, I know I'm being a sad bastard but its better than revision.

FB - Depressing shite on there but still I sit there talking to people I never talk to in real life about rubbish that I don't even care about, seeing that some randomer that I've met once likes the page ".....jk....." its not even funny it never was and never is, in truth that site is for nosey bastards who like to see what there mates are doing, farcical.

Football In General - Who invented footaball and did they really know it was going to take over peoples lifes! The players probably couldn't give a shit about Leicester City at the minute as they sit in Ibiza, yet I still sit on here checking to see if we have signed anyone, or if they're is any breaking news about some average shite being released or sold, the main website is just as bad trying to lure me back on the net by slowly releasing images of the new away shirt, its a shirt and its yellow thats all I need to know but still I keep checking to see the sponsor, like that matters to me, why does it matter what name is one the front of a shirt which some random football player wears? Well truth is evidently I do care as I keep checking.

Anyway I'm bored now, my question is has anyone on here ever been in a similar situation where they are doing something they don't enjoy and are really struggling to think of something else to do in life?

Any tips greatly appreciated, many thanks.

 

[Fox Fan]

At least this is still coming up

Really looking forward to the new catering next season.

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[Macky]

Don't worry yourself Harbs, I've never passed an exam in my life and it's never held me back.
Don't pay too much attention to the bullshit that your teachers have tried to scare you with. In the real world, most employers don't really give a toss what exams you've passed. And if they do, you just pretend that you have got them. All about getting your foot in the door then proving yourself.

You'll be grand.

 

[RHYDAL]

Harbs I left school midway through the sixth form with only 7 'O' levels when I got bored of education, and teachers and being skint. I spent the next 6 months searching for work and had more interviews than I care to recall before finally landing a job working with computers, which back then was a specialist thing. 20 odd years later working for the same company I'm like a pig in shit cos the job pays for me to do the things I actually love to do namely family stuff, football, snooker, poker, beer and arseing around on the computer.

Now my best mate, who frankly hasn't got an ounce of common sense, worked hard in school, got his A-levels and then a degree in music, and after a brief period in the Met, became a music teacher. He used to take great pleasure ragging me about how he was better qualified than me, and then that he earned more money than me. But the reality is that he travels 2 hours every day, leaves the house at 7am and rarely returns home before 7pm, spends all day with screaming children and then comes home to marking and lesson preparation. He's coming out of his second failed marriage, his kids are strangers, he lives with his mum because he's pissed a fortune away on sports cars, mistresses and solicitors fees, and now he's in therapy trying to understand himself.

Any road, here I sit having been out playing poker, watching baseball on ESPN, trying to complete my Panini virtual album (just 3 stickers required) and I couldn't be happier. Despite this having been a pretty shitty year so far having lost both my remaining grandparents in the last couple of months, coupled with my sister and her fella breaking up shortly after her giving birth, my father in law being diagnosed with progressive senile dementure and topped off with the City getting beat at Wembley I still wouldn't swap places with anyone cause I still get to do things that make me happy. (now 2 stickers)

And that's the secret, know what makes you happy, know what you want and go and get it and hang on to it. And don't blame others, bad luck, Baby Jebus etc if you don't get it cos it's all you bucko.

 

[beaumontfox]

I left school before I even took my GCSEs and I think I've done ok. Well ignoring the fact that I'm soon to be on the breadline but that's down to personal circumstances.

Yes, perhaps you've left it a tad late to start revising for your exam, but I really wouldn't stress about it too much.

 

[fitz]

Qualifications help with certain jobs but they're not the only route to success. I was 21 before I got a half decent job and 3 years later am responsible for many budgets for a large expanding UK wide company. I got good GCSEs but shit A-levels, there are people that didn't get the promotion I got who had better A-levels, a degree and one is even a qualified accountant.....it seriously doesn't guarantee success anyway!

 

[fitz]

As for Poundstretcher...they wont have employed you as you're in full time education and would **** off after a short time anyway. School attendance is never mentioned again after school, if it was I would have been claiming my dole for the last 9 years.

 

[drummindefender]

You've only got yourself to blame. No sympathy

I'm about to sit a 3 hour Law exam. A Level English is a piece of piss!

 

[muzzysgal]

Harbs, try and calm down and stop panicking - you are certainly not "****ed".

I cocked up all of my A-levels, but I've had plenty of opportunities to re-train or take other exams which ultimately would've led to me pursuing my career of choice.

I used to think, like you, that getting good qualifications was the be-all and end-all, but I know too many people who have successful and well-paid jobs who didn't do well at school. As some of the others have said, employers don't rely too much on what grades you've got when considering prospective employees. Depending on the nature of the job, other criteria may be deemed to be more important than whether you can write an accurate synopsis of a novel, for example.

If you haven't already, contact your local Connexions office, do your best in your exams and when you have the results, look at what options are available to you.

My son is in a very similar situation to you, although the contributing factors are not quite the same. I'll get him to add you on facebook... :icon_wink

 

[RHYDAL]

A Level English is a piece of piss!

Not for someone who spells 'lives' with an 'f' it's not.

 

[fitz]

Not for someone who spells 'lives' with an 'f' it's not.

I'd imagine its not a piece of piss for many people

 

[Lako42]

I think it is massively missleading to tell the lad that education essentially counts for **** all.

Maybe to you it means very little, but having an education and learning things you have an interest in can be rewarding without expectation that it get's a job as good as you lucky people.

Needless to say that times change, and saying that education has little influence on getting a job back then is very different to a young lad like Harbs today, also maybe the lad doesn't have the same attributes that you possesed when getting your foot in the door.

Work hard Harbs and not only will you have some knowledge but you might just find it very self rewarding. It's not too late to get an education in something that you find interesting, just research all the avenues open to you and use all resources available e.g. connections.


Good Luck

 

[Boy Genius]

Just tell him the truth......... he is ****ed!

 

[SJN-Fox]

Just tell him the truth......... he is ****ed!

Haha ...Supportive as ever BG

I think he was ****ed long before last night, the fact that he has left his revision until the last minute and hasn't even got a copy of the book sort of puts the writing on the wall.

I see it year after year, exam results day, floods of tears from those who realise that their "I don't need to work for this" approach has finally bit them on the arse.

Those people that are saying that qualifications don't matter are not 17 trying to get a job in the midst of an economic crisis. When two equally suitable candidates go for the same job, the one with the best/most qualifications is going to get it.

Many employers won't even offer interviews out to those who do not fulfill the qualification requirement.

My advice Harbs, for what it's worth, is to put the work in on your other subjects and salvage what you can. Talk to your head of year, talk to connections. It may be possible to start again next year or resit your English. All may not be as bleak as you think. Try to remain positive and look at what options are available to you. If it does turn out that you've blown it, there are loads of training incentives available ... young apprentice schemes etc.

(Oh yes, and get your folks to put a password on your computer, close your FB account ... get rid of the distractions)

 

[Darth Vodka]

take yourself off facebook, ask Jeff to ban you from here for two years

education isn't everything, but if you don't have the exams behind you to prove you can work hard, you will have to work hard in jobs to prove you can do it. if you can't motivate youself to revise instead of wanking on the internet, you're going to be useless at work anyway

having said that, the UK will always need street cleaners

 

[Matt_B]

I think it is massively missleading to tell the lad that education essentially counts for **** all.

Maybe to you it means very little, but having an education and learning things you have an interest in can be rewarding without expectation that it get's a job as good as you lucky people.

Needless to say that times change, and saying that education has little influence on getting a job back then is very different to a young lad like Harbs today, also maybe the lad doesn't have the same attributes that you possesed when getting your foot in the door.

Work hard Harbs and not only will you have some knowledge but you might just find it very self rewarding. It's not too late to get an education in something that you find interesting, just research all the avenues open to you and use all resources available e.g. connections.


Good Luck

Just tell him the truth......... he is ****ed!

I wouldn't say neccessarily he is ****ed, but without exams he will find it very hard to get a professional job, especially in the current maket.

Times were you could quit one job walk down the street and get another, nowadays there are hundreds of people applying for each job. And if you have proved that all you managed at school was to bunk off and not bother with your exams they aren't going to hire you over someone else, no matter how well you blag it.

As Lako said (and I'll probably have to kill myself now for agreeing with him on something) telling him education isn't important is misleading.

I got good GCSEs but shit A-Levels and it meant I couldn't do the course I wanted to at Uni, but going through clearing meant I took a different life direction and worked out well for me for a while. But if I hadn't had decent GCSEs I would have found it impossible to go to University, and that is becoming more and more important as more and more people get degrees.

 

[Darth Vodka]

oh and btw

i got four A grade A levels, then spent the whole of university on the lash and ballsed up my degree

consequently my first job in London was putting things in envelopes and my second was photocopying and i had to work my way up and i earnt p1ss all for ages

 

[Kingy_85]

Harbs, I would honestly say enjoy it whilst you can. College/School years are nothing compared to trying to earn a wage and keep a roof over your head. Dont move out of your parents house untill you absolutely have to !

Nowadays I dont have the time to try and get Norwich promoted, plus FM is a lot harder than when I was younger !

I felt pretty much the same at your age and im doing ok , if I do say so myself.

 

[muzzysgal]

Those people that are saying that qualifications don't matter are not 17 trying to get a job in the midst of an economic crisis. When two equally suitable candidates go for the same job, the one with the best/most qualifications is going to get it.

Many employers won't even offer interviews out to those who do not fulfill the qualification requirement.

I wouldn't say neccessarily he is ****ed, but without exams he will find it very hard to get a professional job, especially in the current maket.

Exactly what I used to think. One of my sons wants to join the police and so I did a bit of research to try and encourage him to study hard at school, only to find that the police require no formal qualifications. Needless to say, I've kept this information to myself!

I also used to think that most jobs required Maths and English GCSE passes, but I was wrong, looking at job ads recently.

 

[Darth Vodka]

Exactly what I used to think. One of my sons wants to join the police and so I did a bit of research to try and encourage him to study hard at school, only to find that the police require no formal qualifications. Needless to say, I've kept this information to myself!

bit like the army, you can join with no qualifications, but you won't be officer rank

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