But its one thing to let your desire for the unattainable cloud your judgement but to think taking this risk is little or no risk at all by thinking that 'yes, if we draft a document all contingencies will be taken care of..' is mistaken. Life isn't like that. I'm afraid, it really isn't. Once you're all in the house together, its a different ball game. People will see and feel about things differently. New contingencies and circumstances will arise that the docment didn't forsee or - more likely - the signitaries didn't really realise the situations that would arise, the many householder and on-going decisions that would need to be taken, the costs involved, and the difficulites in decision-making. Particularly unanamous ones.Document or not, without being unnanamous on things, trouble is building up after each and every decision.