Hazzman
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I also baulked at A-Levels, even chose a University receiving acceptance before results day but totally bottled it and complete fell out with everything/everyone. I wanted to become a journalist and didn't want the financial risk (that's the reason i like to give). I was the family's hope and I still am only the second person in my extended family to go university. I spent 12 months doing **** all except eating everything in sight, I ended up at 19 stone 1 pound and really didn't give two toss about anything. I became depressed and virtually lifeless. Esteem was bottom low, confidence non-existent and personality little.
Eventually the penny dropped when (this is going to sound daft) I once stood in a line for Arctic Monkeys tickets at Leicester University and realised I didn't have enough money to buy myself a ticket when I was about ten from the front. Then I went to the Jobcentre which is literally hell on earth. It was then I began writing here there and every for a start. Eventually working three days a week for nothing except experience, routine and to get out of the house. I enjoyed it even though the work was largely boring and repetitive. Went to Connexions a couple of times too which was helpful by simply talking to someone who was clued up and probed me enough to recognise a couple of things. (They had to hunt me down as my secondary school had no data to say where I had gone and apparently my grades were too much of a waste).
I finally got my current job and everything's changed (to a relevant extent). I am now a healthy weight, fairly active and half-way through a university degree. I will admit my confidence has never really been fully repaired. My group of friends is small (sadly, a few of the bastards I met off here are in it) and I am not a big drinker (cos the social side scares me [what a fooking puff]. If I ever met anyone, I wouldn't have a fooking clue what to do except offer to take her Aldershot Town v Stevenage FC.
It's all to do with motivation and to keep on going. Recognise your mistakes, you still have the opportunity to go either way.
On the experience and qualification debate, on my job employers take on folks either way. The employers like the idea of taking on a trainee or graduate and moulding them. Similarly, if a bloke applies whose worked on the tools for ten years plus and showcases a degree of intelligence, they get employed to. Qualifications are a foot in the door if you want to achieve something in the short-term. The folks who get a job for experience have to do roughly five years plus (sometimes less) and this is down to opportunties which arise. Workplaces are not as clear-cut as you need this and that, situations come about etc. which leads to opportunties and chances for honest hard workers.
Eventually the penny dropped when (this is going to sound daft) I once stood in a line for Arctic Monkeys tickets at Leicester University and realised I didn't have enough money to buy myself a ticket when I was about ten from the front. Then I went to the Jobcentre which is literally hell on earth. It was then I began writing here there and every for a start. Eventually working three days a week for nothing except experience, routine and to get out of the house. I enjoyed it even though the work was largely boring and repetitive. Went to Connexions a couple of times too which was helpful by simply talking to someone who was clued up and probed me enough to recognise a couple of things. (They had to hunt me down as my secondary school had no data to say where I had gone and apparently my grades were too much of a waste).
I finally got my current job and everything's changed (to a relevant extent). I am now a healthy weight, fairly active and half-way through a university degree. I will admit my confidence has never really been fully repaired. My group of friends is small (sadly, a few of the bastards I met off here are in it) and I am not a big drinker (cos the social side scares me [what a fooking puff]. If I ever met anyone, I wouldn't have a fooking clue what to do except offer to take her Aldershot Town v Stevenage FC.
It's all to do with motivation and to keep on going. Recognise your mistakes, you still have the opportunity to go either way.
On the experience and qualification debate, on my job employers take on folks either way. The employers like the idea of taking on a trainee or graduate and moulding them. Similarly, if a bloke applies whose worked on the tools for ten years plus and showcases a degree of intelligence, they get employed to. Qualifications are a foot in the door if you want to achieve something in the short-term. The folks who get a job for experience have to do roughly five years plus (sometimes less) and this is down to opportunties which arise. Workplaces are not as clear-cut as you need this and that, situations come about etc. which leads to opportunties and chances for honest hard workers.
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