RHYDAL
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Two examples for you......Fred West and Josef Fritzl.Nothing anyone does behind closed doors is the slightest sliver of anyone else's business. At all. Ever. Regardless of what their job happens to be.
Two examples for you......Fred West and Josef Fritzl.Nothing anyone does behind closed doors is the slightest sliver of anyone else's business. At all. Ever. Regardless of what their job happens to be.
Not at all. It shouldn't matter whether a gay person fits the gay stereotype or not, the "over the flamboyance nancy boys" comment is one which is derived from a heterosexist society in the first place.
There are also plenty of famous gay people who don't fit the stereotype, it doesn't matter either way and I don't think the fact some people do fit the stereotype has anything to do with the heterosexist culture of professional sport.
In part I agree, it shouldn't matter, but, is the over the top flamboyance of certain egotistical gay men the reason gay sports stars prefer to stay in the closet? If gay men acted the same as any other men, perhaps being gay wouldn't still be such a social taboo?
Like it or not, the reason we continue to live in such a heterosexual society is because despite being around for thousands of years, it is only recently that being gay has become even close to being acceptable. Jees, it was still an illegal act as little as 50 years ago.
Like it or not, the reason we continue to live in such a heterosexual society is because despite being around for thousands of years, it is only recently that being gay has become even close to being acceptable. Jees, it was still an illegal act as little as 50 years ago.
Hmmm not sure I agree. Whilst it has been a taboo subject in our culture up until recently, Same sex relationships has not always been illegal and in Ancient Rome and Greece it was fairly openly discussed and common. I'm no historian on the subject but there are plenty examples of homoerotic art and literature from these cultures and societies. We've still got a long way to go though
I think Realist has a point that some gay people yet to come out don't feel comfortable in the gay community, as, especially the part that gets much attention in the media, it's not always representative for gays. The solution, however, can never be to suppress that but to encourage gays who don't feel like dressing up in fancy clothes or speaking in a high pitched voice.
Bit of the same for us Swedes in the UK, really. The stereotype of Swedes as sex-crazed, globetrotting millionaires means I always have to lie and say I was found in a landfill in Hartlepool as an infant. **** you, Sven.Exactly, Swede, but it's hardly the fault of more flamboyant gay men, society should never have gotten to that position where a gay person feels they have to hide their sexuality in the first place, if it hadn't, the flamboyance of anyone or the image of gay people wouldn't be an issue. As you say, the issue should be to encourage less stereotypical gay people to come out more, not to suppress more flamboyant gay men.
Bit of the same for us Swedes in the UK, really. The stereotype of Swedes as sex-crazed, globetrotting millionaires means I always have to lie and say I was found in a landfill in Hartlepool as an infant. **** you, Sven.
Yeah, I can see why in a way, it's not a do-or-die job in the same way as, say, taking on a Premier League club right now would be. As his reputation has gone down rather massively (at least compared to what it used to be at its height) he needs a success quite badly, but in England all the eyes would be on him just waiting for another failure. Now he will escape the limelight for a while, and if he fails he can always say "the working conditions were horrible" (even if they're not) or "the Prime Minister interfered with everything I tried to do" (I think that has happened in the past).:icon_lol:
Did you hear he's applying for a job in Iran btw?
Yeah, I can see why in a way, it's not a do-or-die job in the same way as, say, taking on a Premier League club right now would be. As his reputation has gone down rather massively (at least compared to what it used to be at its height) he needs a success quite badly, but in England all the eyes would be on him just waiting for another failure. Now he will escape the limelight for a while, and if he fails he can always say "the working conditions were horrible" (even if they're not) or "the Prime Minister interfered with everything I tried to do" (I think that has happened in the past).
Oh, and the money... Obviously. But I can't blame him for that. I'd try to milk every penny out of anyone willing to hire me.
Well, if you don't identify yourself as the gay stereotype, and you know that people will have that prejudice about you if you say that you're gay, then obviously that's a factor.So closeted homosexuals aren't open because other men are too gay? Is that the gist of the argument?
That sounds dangerously like moral relativism: if gays were just less gay it'd be fine?
Slippery slope that one.
I think there's an element of homosexual and bi-sexual men and women that don't out themselves because of the social taboos stillin place but I think there are some that just don't think that they have to. Why does a gay person have to tell everyone they are gay. Heterosexuals don't go round to everyone they meet and say I'm straight. It doesn't have to be a big deal but unfortunately in most cases it still is
Not a very good comparison really. Heterosexual people don't need to go round everyone to say they're straight, because no one is going to discriminate against you because you're heterosexual, so there is no real sense of trepidation about how another person would judge you and tbh I would also say most people seem to automatically assume others to be heterosexual anyway.
Of course gay or bisexual people don't have to tell others they are if they don't want to, but I'm sure most people would want to and wouldn't want to have to feel they have to have their relationships behind closed doors and wouldn't have to put up with questions from their friends and family about whether they have a boyfriend/girlfriend yet. I can imagine it's pretty awkward for a gay or lesbian person to be around other friends of the same sex talking about which members of the opposite sex they like or whatever, which let's face it, is a very frequent topic of conversation amongst friends of both sexes.
P | Pld | Pts | |
1 | Leicester | 46 | 97 |
2 | Ipswich | 46 | 96 |
3 | Leeds Utd | 46 | 90 |
4 | Southampton | 46 | 87 |
5 | West Brom | 46 | 75 |
6 | Norwich City | 46 | 73 |
7 | Hull City | 46 | 70 |
8 | Middlesbro | 46 | 69 |
9 | Coventry City | 46 | 64 |
10 | Preston | 46 | 63 |
11 | Bristol City | 46 | 62 |
12 | Cardiff City | 46 | 62 |
13 | Millwall | 46 | 59 |
14 | Swansea City | 46 | 57 |
15 | Watford | 46 | 56 |
16 | Sunderland | 46 | 56 |
17 | Stoke City | 46 | 56 |
18 | QPR | 46 | 56 |
19 | Blackburn | 46 | 53 |
20 | Sheffield W | 46 | 53 |
21 | Plymouth | 46 | 51 |
22 | Birmingham | 46 | 50 |
23 | Huddersfield | 46 | 45 |
24 | Rotherham Utd | 46 | 27 |